My wife has PTSD and ADHD.

As one well-known author once said, “It was the best of times. It was the worst of times.” This isn’t a blog about marriage, it’s a blog about loving and living with someone with PTSD and ADHD. However, in my life, these are integrally related. While marriage has been a wonderful journey that so many will tell you it is, it has also been a trying one at times.

You see, my wife has PTSD and ADHD. I’m responsible for some of her trauma, but not all of it. That falls to her childhood and past relationships. Sparing you the details of a damaging and disturbing childhood and past relationships, I will tell you that my wife is the most resilient person I have ever met (including myself).

I have no intention of giving details of my wife’s background, relationships, or current issues other than PTSD and ADHD. What I intend to do is give pointers, ideas, and techniques that have worked well in my marriage and relationship. It is difficult to find support and ways to help someone with PTSD. I hope to help fill that void in this blog.

How Dysregulation Hijacks PTSD Symptom Management

We've already discussed that anxiety levels are a good indicator of overall symptoms related to PTSD. We've also discussed that PTSD symptom management is literally a constant and ongoing process. Some days, your survivor might feel symptom-free, or they might come...

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The Basics of PTSD: A New Series

I'm going to start a new series regarding the basics of PTSD and how it affects daily life of a PTSD survivor and their loved ones. I'll focus on a single component of PTSD as much as I can (most posts here involve the co-mingling of several ideas and topics), and...

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The Freeze Response: An Additional Response to Trauma

The freeze response is discussed in this continuation of an earlier article I wrote on the automatic responses to trauma. Three Brains, One Person Okay, that's a bit misleading. Humans indeed have only one brain. However, in my PTSD research, I have come across...

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What Actually Happens During a PTSD Trigger

I just came across this great article on triggers on the MyPTSD forum, and I wanted to share it. This is a great insight into the mind of a survivor of PTSD: Dylan breaks down the effects of triggering step by step: The brain unconsciously evaluates stimuli at...

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Mental Health and Decreased Sex Drive

I'm so glad that my wife suggested this topic for my next blog entry. I know, it's an uncomfortable topic for some. It's a crucial part to a relationship, however. Sexual intimacy is important to the health of any relationship because of the intimacy it brings. Read...

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I am not a medical professional, not a doctor, not a licensed health practitioner of any kind. I am a curious and devoted husband that is married to someone that lives with some things I don’t, and I want to know more about them. My posts and experiences should not be considered medical advice of any kind. If you or a loved one are in immediate danger, please call your mental health crisis line or 911.